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How to help silent team members participate?

Best technique to equalize introverts and extroverts during meetings and events

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Vibhor Chandel
Dec 11, 2025
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In most teams, the way we talk is the problem.

Last week, I attended a workshop with 30 people in the room. Here’s what I observed:

  • same 5 people took every decision

  • quiet people were…quiet

  • the “agreement” in the room was mostly… compliance

I mean… it was a successful session led by an experienced facilitator. We hit the agenda and all.

But… it was incomplete.

During the coffee break, I was speaking with the facilitator when one of the engineers walked up to us and said:

“I had ideas that could have changed our approach… but there was never a good moment to jump in.”

This was awkward for the facilitator.

And I was, once again, reminded of the below antipattern:

Most meetings “accidentally” reward the loudest voice, not the best idea.

And if you (as a facilitator) rely only on “who speaks up,” you are systematically underusing the people who often do the deepest thinking.

In today’s post, I’ll walk you through a simple way to “silence” the room on purpose so that both introverts and extroverts can contribute equally.

Let’s get started.

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